Monthly Archives: February 2013

What the World’s Most Famous Ballet Company Can Teach Us About Good Mental Health – Hint: It’s Not Do as I Do

Just finished reading last week’s Time magazine article about the troubles at the Bolshoi Ballet in Russia, the world’s most famous ballet company. There is no doubt that the ballerinas at the Bolshoi are among the best dancers in the world and that they are awesome role models for dancers everywhere. It turns out they are not awesome role models ... Read More »

What Fascists and Cheating Husbands Have in Common

A new client, in for marriage counseling, asked me if there was really right and wrong. “Isn’t it just each person’s opinion?” she asked. Or anyway, that’s what her cheating husband had insisted, she shared. I knew why she was seeking marriage counseling. “Yes,” I assured her, “there is right and wrong, and it’s not just one person’s opinion.” I said ... Read More »

The Anger Cure: Don’t Let Anyone Get Your Goat!


My client was upset by an email she got from her estranged husband. When she forwarded the email to her family law attorney, he counseled her to ignore it. He said, “He’s just trying to get your goat!” My client wisely backed off and didn’t make an issue of it. I made a mental note to check on the origin ... Read More »

Are You Emotionally Generous or Are You an Emotional Miser and What Can We Learn From Little Red Riding Hood?

One of my clients was researching her dysfunctional, emotionally abusive, narcissistic personality disordered ex-boyfriend in hopes of maintaining our agreed upon no contact rule, when she ran across an interesting comment. That the narcissistic male is attracted to emotionally generous women. They can smell them a mile away. They see their generosity as an easy mark. She admitted regretfully that ... Read More »