I’ve been talking all week to captive audiences (my clients, my hairdresser, friends and relatives who call for other purposes, random strangers) about the amazing story of Antoinette Tuff, who averted a school shooting at the Ronald E. McNair Discovery Learning Academy in Decatur, Georgia. I’ve been pleading with everyone to listen to the full recording of the 24+ minute ... Read More »
Couples Counseling 101: Why Can’t Men Be More Like Women, and Women Be More Like Men?
I was at my Aunt Karen’s last week and I asked her how large her nice, ranch-style home was. She had to holler to her husband, Buz, who shouted back without hesitation: “2,650 square feet.” That got me thinking . . . that it would be pretty boring to be a man. Always thinking logically and knowing the square footage ... Read More »
What’s Wrong with Elysium?
And I mean the movie, not the offsite, extraplanetary, high-life consortium featured in the movie. Matt Damon, wherefore art thou Jason Bourne? Jodie Foster, have you forgotten about Contact? What happened to good old fashioned sci-fi? Think Star Wars, Iron Man, Avatar. What do the above movies have in common? They’re action, adventure, or sci-fi, but the thread that binds ... Read More »
Five Reasons Why We Love The Buddha & The Borderline
This book by Kiera Van Gelder is a must-read if you’ve been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, if you think you should be diagnosed with BPD, if your friends or family have amateurishly diagnosed you with BPD, or if you just want to understand approximately 20% of the population.* Kiera: Thanks so much for sharing your story with us. Here’s ... Read More »
Twelve Things Silver Linings Playbook Can Teach You
Silver Linings Playbook just made it to the top of my Netflix list. I loved it! Come for the entertainment; stay for the positive mental health principles which are as follows: 1) When people are hurting, they may do crazy things. 2) Try not to judge them. 3) Exercise of all kinds builds endorphins. 4) Try it. 5) People you ... Read More »
What the Asiana Plane Crash Can Teach Us About Mental Health
In the San Francisco Asiana plane crash, some people tried to help their fellow passengers, while others pushed and shoved in a desperate attempt to get ahead of the rest. In an article from the San Jose Mercury News, Julia Sulek interviewed passengers to find out what happened during the chaos, who showed strength of character and who narcissistically put ... Read More »
Do You Suffer from Psychological Autoimmune Disorder?
My client, Jennifer, was expressing self-defeating thoughts for the umpteenth time. “Do you think my daughter will like her stepmother more than me? The new guy I met didn’t call me back. No one will ever want me. Why am I such a loser?” It had been a long day, and I’d had it with her self-defeating comments. I blurted ... Read More »
What Does Your Life and the Obama Administration Have in Common?
The Obama administration is having a bad week. First the Benghazi hearings, then the IRS scandal, then the DOJ’s secret subpoena. Repubs want to hang them from the highest tree and are talking impeachment hearings at worst, or at the very least using the controversies to fuel fund-raising efforts. Come on folks, they’re just having a bad week. Haven’t you ... Read More »
Small Fears, Big Fears, Fear of Death, and the Antidote
Hardly a day goes by in my office without someone talking about fear. I’ve heard it all. People fear being embarrassed, rejected, outsmarted, and ridiculed. They also fear for their safety and the safety of their loved ones. They fear terminal illness and debilitating conditions. They fear failure. I’ve heard about fear of heights, elevators, closed in spaces, and planes ... Read More »
What Do Therapists and the Guy Who Saved GM Have in Common?
Just finished reading American Turnaround (Business Plus) by Ed Whitacre. I saw Ed on The Daily Show and his common sense approach to complex business problems got my attention. He was tapped by the Obama administration to come out of retirement and help turn around General Motors after the 50 billion dollar TARP bailout. Not to give away the ending, ... Read More »