It had been a rough week and my husband, Bob and I were giving ourselves a well-deserved rest. After sleeping in–we decided no rules, no work, no commitments, and all the movies we wanted to watch beginning with an afternoon movie. For us, workaholics that we are, that would be like drinking in the middle of the day.
Our DVD was The Town (2010), the movie Ben Affleck directed before Argo (2012). It was thought- provoking and deeply moving. I had one more movie on my agenda for that day, Lincoln.
But I was so moved by The Town (see archives for benefits of “movie therapy”) that I debated seeing another movie. I just wanted to be present with the feeling of upliftment and deep feelings that The Town brought.
When I was trying to make the decision about dragging my husband to some more movie therapy I soon realized that I had already achieved my goal. I was already full of love and contentment. That’s the goal on earth, is it not?
If I was already there, why waste my time in continued pursuit of something I already had? Just let it be, I concluded. Ok, I know that sounds really zen, but you gotta know it’s true.
So we stayed home, basked in the glow of love and I told my husband he was my Ben Affleck. Plus the thing about zen is that it has to be re-won every day. There’d be other days when I needed a lift.
Love really does make the world go ‘round. And it makes us go ‘round too.
p.s. There are three reasons why The Town works as “movie therapy” and the first two are Ben Affleck and Jeremy Renner.
By the way, were you as amazed as I was that Jeremy could play a messed up hoodlum in The Town, and then get all suited up to become an awesome superhero in The Avengers (2012) and The Bourne Legacy (2012)? I guess that’s why they call it acting.
Anyhow, the third reason is that it’s got a great message. If we’re honest with ourselves, we realize that we all make choices we regret. Sometimes those choices have consequences we never expected.
But in the end, it’s all about love. And that’s a treatise on the life experience. Whether it’s on this side or the other.