Category Archives: Self Help

Time to Find a Mission

Car Wash #3

It’s mid-March. The sun was shining and it was 70 degrees in Lexington yesterday. After a brutal six weeks of record breaking temperatures and snowfalls in Kentucky—in Lexington we hit  -18, and that’s not wind chill; and we saw nearly 30”of snow fall accumulate in two arctic blasts. We also had motorists stranded on Kentucky Interstates for 24+ hours and ... Read More »

Why PTSD is So Intractable–Trauma is Stored in Our Brains!

Marilyn vos Savant is a national columnist and author and has been listed in Guinness World Records for “highest IQ” (both as a child and an adult). I was reading her Q&A column in Parade (Sunday newspaper magazine, readership 79 million) and was delighted to see a mental health question. The reader asked why, if we could hypnotize people to ... Read More »

A Look through the Forgiveness Window

Auschwitz to Forgiveness

A client, “Janine” recently shared with me the abuse she’d undergone at the hands of her father when she was growing up. The beatings were relentless until finally, after turning 18, she escaped by leaving home. What followed were some difficult teen years, two marriages for the wrong reasons, affairs, and alcohol abuse. She was, as Freud would say, continuing to “act out” the ... Read More »

Is Stress Your Friend? If Not, You Must Read This

How To Make Stress Your Friend

I never post links to other articles, websites, pages, blogs, or images in the body of my blog posts. Why? For one of my of my blog posts, I reviewed a book titled, The Shallows: What the Internet is Doing to Our Brains, by Nicholas Carr. (June 2: “What Do Boko Haram, the Internet, and Books Have in Common?”) The ... Read More »

What Do Boko Haram, the Internet, and Books Have in Common?

I recently read, The Shallows: What the Internet is Doing to Our Brains by Nicholas Carr (W.W. Norton & Company). Hint: It’s making us shallow. The author makes a good case, backed up by solid evidence, that the Internet is causing us to think less deeply (less concentration, contemplation, and reflection). Instead we are becoming more ADHD, as we flit ... Read More »

Arguing Leads to Early Death—So Don’t Do It!

Los Angeles Times reporter Karen Kaplan reported on a longitudinal study published online last week in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health that proved that arguing leads to early death. The study looked at middle-aged adults who frequently fought with their spouses and found that they were twice as likely to die young when compared to their nonfighting or ... Read More »

All’s Fair in Love, War, and ADHD (apparently)


One of my clients, Charity (not her real name), mentioned her son’s recent diagnosis of attention deficit hyperactive disorder. (ADHD) She had been resistant to the diagnosis at first, she shared, but she soon gave in, after realizing that in fact, she and her husband both suffered from ADHD as well. In the end, it was good news. An occupational therapist ... Read More »